October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (Video in English)
Octubre es el Mes de Concientización sobre la Violencia Doméstica (vídeo en español)
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (DV) is a serious crime that includes physical, emotional, social, sexual, spiritual, financial and digital abuse. More than one in three women and one in four men in the United States report having experienced DV, stalking, sexual assault or physical assault by an intimate partner during their lifetimes. It can occur between family members, intimate partners and within dating relationships, and affects people of all races, ages, gender identities, socio-economic levels, religions, backgrounds, beliefs and abilities.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, Washington County agencies have seen an increase in DV reports. However, some survivors have been reluctant to seek services due to a combination of lockdown measures and not wanting to obtain health services for fear of infection.
Tigard Police wants survivors as well as family and friends to know there are people who can help with resources, support and safety plans:
For safety planning, support, intervention and resource referrals, call the Domestic Violence Resource Center 24-Hour Crisis Line at 503-469-8620 or visit www.dvrc-or.org
For multi-agency support services, contact the Family Justice Center: (503) 430-8300 or visit fjcwc.org
For police emergencies, call 9-1-1
For non-emergency police assistance in WA County, call 503-629-0111
We know that COVID-19 has made life more harrowing for survivors. We want you to get the support that you need during this difficult time and encourage you to reach out.
Video and Radio Interview from 2019 DVAM
Tigard Police Detective Rinell and Sergeant Fox's interview on the iHeart Radio’s John Erickson Show on 10/1/19
Article: Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month By Tigard Police Department
“Why don’t they just leave?” is a question commonly asked about survivors of domestic violence. People asking this question are typically unaware of the inherent danger associated with leaving an abusive relationship and effective tactics perpetrators use to ensnare their significant others. During Domestic Violence (DV) Awareness Month, the Tigard Police Department (TPD), along with our partners in Washington County, want to raise awareness about the challenges survivors face and highlight the resources that can help them break free.
Because domestic violence is one of the most dangerous types of call, at least two Tigard officers respond to every incident. Officers must prepare for a volatile situation where the perpetrator may escalate or continue being violent well after they arrive. Drugs and alcohol, although not the cause of abuse, can exacerbate an already tense situation. If a victim is attempting to end the relationship, it is an especially precarious time. “When survivors try to leave, perpetrators may feel they have nothing to lose. There’s definitely a risk that they may kill their partners,” says Detective Kristan Rinell.
Even if it is not at that point, police visits can be challenging for survivors. One survivor told Detective Rinell, “I’ve been dealing with this for years and I know how to manage it. When you show up, it throws a monkey wrench into the mix.” If the abuser is released shortly after an arrest, the added risk of retaliation may dissuade them from cooperating in the future.
Abusers often isolate their partners, whittling away at their support network. Family and friends may be concerned for their own safety or grow weary of the being there for someone who continually returns to an abusive relationship. Detective Rinell recalls an abuser preventing grandparents from seeing their grandchildren for months after they tried to help their daughter leave him. They quickly learned to conform so they could stay connected. Survivors who have an enduring support system will fare better over the long run than those who become alienated over time.
If a person is financially dependent on an abuser and has kids, there may be insufficient resources to leave. It is a lot for the person to get a job, pay for rent, a deposit, furniture, provisions, and childcare.
Survivors often need emotional and financial support to leave an abusive relationship. Not only have they experienced the emotional and/or physical abuse, but they may also still care about that person. Their children may miss their parent, blame the survivor for breaking up the family, and will need a lot of support after witnessing and/or experiencing violence. Survivors may share custody with the perpetrator, further complicating their recovery.
Fortunately, there are social services in Washington County focused on survivors including:
Domestic Violence Resource Center | 503-469-8620
Family Justice Center | 503-430-8300
Sexual Assault Resource Center | 503-640-5311
Call to Safety | 503-235-5333
Tigard Police Detective Kristan Rinell likens domestic violence survivors to warriors. When they aren't fending off a physical attack, they’re strategizing ways to keep their environment safe, especially for their children, and planning for what may come next. Leaving an abusive relationship can take time, resources, and a lot of support; until then, they must endure an emotional and physical warzone.
Family Justice Center of Washington County By Toni Loch, Director
Family Justice Center of Washington County, located in Beaverton, has been open for 1½ years to serve victims of domestic and sexual assault. Family Justice Center of Washington County is an independent private nonprofit whose mission is to provide services and hope to people impacted by family violence and sexual assault through the collaboration of agencies located here.
It is a one stop shop where a victim can see many agencies in one visit. Previously victims had to go from agency to agency and not necessarily know which agencies they may be eligible for services. When someone decides it’s time to leave an abusive relationship they typically are seeking immediate assistance. Here at the Family Justice Center a victim can come in for a restraining order, talk to a lawyer or DHS or law enforcement and appear in our remote court. A short assessment is done when the victim first comes to the Center to determine what services will best serve the client.
There are eleven agencies located at the Family Justice Center—Domestic Violence Resource Center, Sexual Assault Resource Center, Department of Human Services, Community Action, Oregon Law Center; Victim Rights Law Center, Hillsboro Police Department, Beaverton Police Department, Washington County Sheriff’s Office, Washington County Circuit Court and Voices Set Free.
Contact Information The Family Justice Center is located at 735 SW 158th Avenue, Beaverton. The number to call for information is 503-430-8300. Hours of operation are Monday through Thursday 8:30 a.m.–4:00 p.m, and on Fridays from 8:30 a.m.–3:00 p.m. Calling ahead of time is a good idea as not all agencies are onsite every day.
City Council adopted a proclamation establishing October 2020 as Domestic Violence Awareness Month on September 22, 2020.
Calendar of Events
September 22, 2020 Tigard City Council adopts Domestic Violence Awareness (DVAM) Month Proclamation
October 13, 2020 Domestic Violence Awareness panel at the City of Tigard's Community Roundtable (social service agencies and organizations of faith serving Tigard) 8-9am
October 15, 2020 Wear Purple for Domestic Violence Awareness Day
October 21, 2020 Virtual Candelight Vigil on Facebook Live (7-7:30pm)
Resources: Domestic Violence Resource Center Hotline 503-469-8620 www.dvrc-or.org